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She NEVER GAVE UP

Posted by [email protected] on November 19, 2019 at 1:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Howdy…

Happiest of Monday mornings
to you all…
I hope that you all had a great weekend
and that this Monday has been kind to you so far…

 

If you are new to my website and / or
my Facebook page...
 This is the portion of the show
where I like to send a warm and heart felt welcome
to you and others who may be visiting for the first time…

I hope that you will take a minute to look around and visit
each page so that you get a feel for this guy is
who is talking about life….

 

You know…
As the name of my site explains…
We talk life here…

Sometimes it’s good and uplifting

Sometimes it’s a little down in the dumps

That’s life, right???

 

Today…
I want to talk about my mantra

NEVER GIVE UP

 

I became a HUGE fan of this mantra
when I was first diagnosed with both Cirrhosis
and Hemochromatosis

 

To me…
the meaning behind those three words
were simple…
It meant EXACTLY what it said….

Never - Give - Up

 

I believe whole heartedly in that phrase
and I spread that message as often as I can…
Even in the darkest of times

You see…
Two and a half years ago…
A young man named Devin went missing
from our local community…
Posters started popping up all around
the area near my office…
I even found some IN my office and thought
how cool it was that people were offering
to make the posters…

 

Little did I know…
His mother worked in my office…

 

Over the past two (plus) years…
I have watched his mother build a Facebook page
that had over ONE THOUSAND members sharing
Devin’s story all across the nation…

 

I watched as people made awful comments
about the possibilities of where Devin was…
Knowing that his mother SAW each and every comment…

 

I watched with anticipation as every lead turned out to be a dud…
I watched as his mother swore that she would
NEVER GIVE UP until Devin was found…

 

And she didn’t…

 

You see…
Devin was found 2 and half years later
not far from where his phone was last traced
on that March morning in 2017

 

There are still questions surrounding HOW this young man was
found after all this time and I’m sure there will be answers soon…

However…

That’s not for me to discuss…

 

What I CAN discuss is the fact that
it was HIS MOTHER’S NEVER GIVE UP attitude
that brought her son home…

 

She fought DAY and NIGHT to keep
her son’s story in the public eye
while enduring the torment of public scrutiny
and arm chair detectives who thought they had
the answers to every question…

 

Now…

Don’t get me wrong…
There were MORE of us than there were the
internet trolls…

There were a TON of us who prayed for the BEST
for this family and we lifted them up at every corner…

 

Literally…

 

There were signs on almost every corner to try
and help BRING DEVIN HOME
(We even had one outside of our church…;)

 

Despite watching this story unfold from the outside...
I have seen the devastation 
that this family has encountered…

 

I can’t begin to understand what the sense 
of loss must be for a parent…

 

Devin
I know you are watching…
I know you see the love that surrounds your parents…
It’s too bad you didn’t get to see this in the flesh...

You have brought a community together
even if it is in sorrow…

 

In closing…
I just want to say this…

 

I’m blessed to have two beautiful nieces who are teens…
I know that Deanna and I would be devastated if something
were to happen to either of them…
(or our young nephew)

 

I just hope that they both know that even though
it may not be the “cool thing” to do…
They can reach out to US if they feel like they can’t
talk to their own parents…

 

We will ALWAYS be right here…

That goes for any of you reading this…

 

Until the next time…

Joel
#NeverGiveUp

 


Hold my beer - It's time to rant

Posted by [email protected] on November 6, 2019 at 1:45 AM Comments comments (0)

Howdy…
Happiest of Tuesdays to you all…
I hope you all had a great weekend
and Monday was kind to you…

If you are BRAND NEW to my site
and / or FACEBOOK page this is the portion
of the show where I send a very WARM
and heartfelt WELCOME….
I hope you will take a second to check out the
website and all that it has to offer just
so you know who you are dealing with
and WHY I feel it necessary to talk about life…

Today…
I wanna talk about an event that has kinda
kept me quiet for a few days…

If you read my last blog, it was dated
October 18th – so it’s been a minute since
I last updated this thing as today is November 5th!!!

Soooo…
Most of you may know that I am the “farm hand”
on our mini farm (Ornery Acres Farm)
We have goats, chickens, 2 horses, and a mini donkey…
(Not to mention the 4 dogs and the cat)

Anyway…
On Friday (Oct.25th) morning I noticed that the donkey
had gotten into the pen with the female goats…
She wasn’t hurting anything but she was pacing
back and forth like she might be stressed…

Long story short….
I chased her for a few minutes and fell flat on my face…
Almost immediately I knew I had done something
to my ribs as it was pretty sore…
But since being it was a rib I elected NOT to go to the doctor
because what CAN they or WILL do for a rib???

As Friday went on…
I became more and more uncomfortable
and became more concerned that I probably
SHOULD have gone to the doctor….

As the weekend rolled on…
I kept telling my wife that it was something MORE
than my ribs and that I was going to call the doctor
on Monday…

By Sunday I could barely walk and we missed church
AND the Titans game…
That’s what sealed the deal…
Not the fact that we missed church…

We MISSED the Titans actually WINNING A GAME!!!
:roll:

Soooo…
First thing Monday morning…
I called the doctors office…
and I called…
and I called…
and I called…
Each time getting a recording stating
that they opened at 8:00 am

Finally at 8:20 am I got a person on the phone…
I told them the story and asked if there was ANY WAY
that I could be seen that day...
I was told that there was a 4:15 pm with a physician’s assistant
to which I gladly took despite the late afternoon time…

You see if this doctor tells you 4:15
You should AUTOMATICALLY add 45 minutes to the time…

And …
As I thought…
I wasn’t seen until 5:15 pm
Only to be told that I would have to be seen at a different
location for x-rays and an ultrasound but the P A wasn’t sure
what time they closed at the other location…
Deanna had to hunt that information herself…

Fortunately…
They didn’t close until 6pm
and I was able to get x-rays done…

The ultra sound…
It would have to wait until TUESDAY because
that technician had already gone for the day…
So THAT was scheduled for 10:15 on Tuesday…

I had the ultra sound done and went back to work
knowing it would be ATLEAST Wednesday before
I heard anything…

Wednesday now turns in to Thursday
Which, by the way….
Is the Doctor’s half day…

So I called at 10:30 am asking for information…

At this point…
I’m told a nurse will call me back before
they close at noon…

Noon comes and goes
with NO PHONE CALL

Nearly 45 minutes later…
A nurse calls me and say that my spleen
is enlarged and I need to come in for blood work
Friday morning…

At 7:55 am on Friday (Nov.1st) morning
I go in for my blood work…
I was there long enough to draw a vial of blood
and then back to work…

Before going to lunch at 11:30 am
I decided I needed to check and see if there
were any answers yet…

I mean…
It’s Friday and I don’t want to hurt all weekend
if I don’t have too, right???

At this point…
I’m told that the physician’s assistant that was helping
me was out of the office and could not be reached by phone
until after 2:00 pm and if I had not heard back from them
by 4:00 pm I should call back…

I gave them the benefit of doubt
and waited until 4:15 pm to call back as I had NOT
heard a peep out of them…

You can imagine MY surprise
when the nurse had NO CLUE as to
what the HELL I was talking about…

Now…
Let me catch you up here…
It is now pushing 4:30 pm on a FRIDAY afternoon…

I’m looking for either:
A) Answers to why I hurt so bad
or…
B) pain meds to get me through
the weekend…

Now…
I’m officially PISSED OFF

I text Deanna and tell her what’s going on
and that it looks like I won’t get answers or
pain meds as it is NOW almost 4:45 pm
Deanna simply texts me back with:
“hold my beer”
:lol:

Sooooo…
It’s now 5pm and I’m on my way home…
I am more than half way home when I get a text
from my pharmacy stating I have a pain medication
to pick up…
(remember that for later)

Saturday morning we pick up the meds
and I ask the pharmacist what the doctor prescribed me…
Hydrocodone with Acetaminophen…
(a product I’m supposed to avoid due to my liver issues)

Now…
I KNOW I shouldn’t have taken ANY of the pain medication…
But I was hurting pretty bad at that time…
I can tell you that all it did was knock my ass out
and made the pain seem worse on Sunday

On Sunday (Nov.3rd)
Deanna and I spoke to a dear friend who is a retired
military nurse and when she heard this story she
seemed really surprised that a doctor’s practice
would actually be this non responsive to ANY patient
much less one with my history…

She suggested that we go to the ER for further test
and to get the answers that we couldn’t get from
OUR OWN DOCTOR

So we did…

That afternoon we went to the ER and explained
the situation probably a half dozen times and
within a couple of hours we had answers that
have YET to be answered by
OUR OWN DAMN DOCTOR

After that fall…
I am the proud owner of a fractured rib
and a bruised spleen…
All of my labs came back normal as well…

So…
Let me go back in history…

This particular doctor is the doctor who originally diagnosed me
with Hemochromatosis AS WELL AS Cirrhosis of the liver
If it wasn’t for his ability to spot something that was off
and that only a few doctors know what test to perform
to VERIFY that prognosis, there is NO TELLING where
I would be without him…

That’s why this recent situation has hurt me so terribly…

You see…
I feel as if I owe him a debt of gratitude…
But I’m not about to put my life on the line
because he has become too damn busy
selling a lose weight quick scheme…

If you look back…
I mentioned getting a text from the PHARMACY…
Yeah, the DOCTOR’S office NEVER CALLED me to
tell me that something was called in…

Not only that…

The DOCTOR’S office has ZERO CLUE that I’m
signed up to get a text from the pharmacy like that…
So how would I have KNOWN to pick it up???


This DOCTOR has gone from being on TOP OF HIS GAME
and being a TRUSTED PHYSICIAN to one who literally
“subs out” his patients with health issues so he can
focus on obesity…

If this is the actual case…
I think a phone call would have been nice
just to say “hey Joel, I’m going to refer you to someone else”
instead of just not giving ME answers and being DOUBLE BILLED
for the same damn injury…

In closing…
I just wanna say this…
If you have a doctor who is NOT keeping your best interest
then it’s time to find a new one…
I get the fact that people HATE change
as I am one of them….
But when it comes to your health…
You HAVE TO BE ABLE TO TRUST YOUR DOCTOR
And I’ve lost that trust...

Thank you for spending your time with me today
and I look forward to getting BACK to something fun
real soon...

Yall have a great week!!!
Joel
#NeverGiveUp




Advice to a younger me

Posted by [email protected] on October 18, 2019 at 1:15 AM Comments comments (1)


Howdy…

Happiest of Thursdays to you all…
For most of you, we are one day closer to the weekend…

For me…
This is my FRIDAY!!!
Three day weekend and I’m not sure what’s in store…
(I kinda like that)
8)

Ok…
If you are new here…
This is the portion of the show where
I welcome all the newbies…

Sooooo…
WELCOME!!!!
Please take a moment to look around and visit
all of the pages so you can get a feel for who
I am and WHY I like to talk about life…

Alright…
Today’s blog is a somewhat of a “challenge”
given to me by my son at 5:30 this morning…

He asked me if I could go back and give the
YOUNGER ME one piece of advice
what would it be???

Gosh…
How far back do I go???
Highschool???
(mind you – it was the mid 80’s)

For the kid entering his darkest days
I would have to say this…
(to the kid with ADD)

One day…
There is going to an explanation for WHY you
can’t concentrate and WHY people think you
are stupid…

Hang in there because one day YOU will
prevail and YOU will become something…
Unlike what your 6th grade teacher said…

Yeah….
Mrs. Kiesling said I would be a bum…
(I showed her)

Now…
If this is the young adult me…
Damn…
Where do I EVEN start???

Before I even go there…
I am PROUD of the life that Deanna and I
have made for ourselves…
I say that because as I’m typing I have
NO CLUE what’s about to come from my
brain to my finger tips…

I think what I would tell the younger me
is STRIVE TO BE THE BEST ME POSSIBLE
and not settle for mediocracy…

You see…
Because of the fact that I stayed so aggravated
throughout high school I elected NOT to pursue
college and instead jumped right into the work force…

Actually…
Jumping isn’t the right word…
More like dodge it as I would work a week
and quit then find another job and quit…

I really didn’t get the whole WORK THING
until I met Deanna…

THAT’S when it became clear to me
that I had to find some FOCUS and do
something to better myself…
(and I did)

Sadly…
I spent the better part of my 20’s and 30’s
busting my ass as either a mover or a truck driver
for a mattress company and my body took a beating for it…
But I learned what job loyalty was…
And I learned the value of teamwork too…
Something that I lost after my days of organized sports
had trailed off as a kid…

Lessons I should have learned
if I had just tried harder – earlier…

Now…
Despite the obstacles I have conquered
over the years…
I would say that the BIGGEST and BEST piece of advice
I could give my self is this…

PRAY
Surround yourself with positive people…
Be a positive influence on others…
Be kind…
And PRAY even more…

And I almost forgot...

NEVER GIVE UP.

In closing…
I just wanna say this…
On my Facebook page I proudly
display Philippians 4:13

“I can do all things thru Him who strengthens me”

Let’s be real…
Life is never going to be a walk in the park…

There is no bigger truth than the quote from
one of my favorite movies (Forest Gump)
when Forest says:
Life is like a box of chocolates,
you never know what you’re gonna get…

God isn’t going to give you more than you can handle…
It’s up to YOU as to how you handle it…

I don’t know if this has answered Dew’s question
to his satisfaction but that’s the best that I can come up with…

What about you???
What piece of advice would you drop
on the younger you???

Drop me a comment!!!

Thanks for reading...
And...
Have a great rest of the week!!!

Joel
#NeverGiveUp




Update time

Posted by [email protected] on October 9, 2019 at 11:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Howdy…
And welcome to a special Wednesday edition
of my blog…

Wait…

Did I just say Wednesday???
(I know, it throws me off too…;)
:D

If you are a newbie to the website
and / or FAEBOOK page…
This is the portion of the show where I send
out a great big WELCOME to the show!!!
I certainly hope you will take the time to
look around and get a feel for why I feel
the need to talk life with you…

Speaking of which…

Let’s get started…

Today…
I wanna give an update on LIFE…

MY LIFE…

If you have been with me for a while
then you know of my battle with BOTH
(Non alcohol related) Cirrhosis of the Liver
and Hereditary Hemochromatosis

Periodically…
I have to visit with an oncologist who
specializes in hemochromatosis and we
do blood work to determine whether my
iron (ferritin) level is too high…

If the ferritin level is too high…
Then I have to have a phlebotomy
to rid my body of the access iron in my blood…
Basically they drain my body of a pint of blood…
(sounds fun, huh???)
:/

When I first started this craziness eight years ago
I was having to go once a week to have a phlebotomy done…
Then it was twice a month…
At one point it was once every six months…

Then…
Out of know where…
Life hit me at 50….

I’ve written about all of the things that have
happened throughout this past year and the best
way I can describe it is like this…

Our life this year has been like
a really bad 80’s country song!!!

You know what happens when you play
a country song backwards???
You get your house back…
Your dog back…
Your truck back…
Your wife back…

Anyways…

I live near Nashville….
I can crack that joke…
:lol:

Sooooo….
Since my last birthday
(October 17th if you’d like to send me a gift)
;)

I have been to the oncologist 4 times…
Three of those times have resulted in phlebotomies
because my ferritin level will not come down to a
place where the doctor feels comfortable allowing
me to NOT have one…

Yesterday was the 4th visit…


I thought I was going in for blood work only
which is normally how it works…
One week it’s blood work and the next
it’s the phlebotomy if needed…

The Oncologist likes for my ferritin level
to be at 50 ng / ml or below…
(nanograms per milliliter of blood)
Yesterday it was 51ng / ml and she was playing
cautious with me since I’ve had such issues
here recently…

Needless to say…
I’m quite bummed about this…

I bring this story to you all to prove
that I am indeed one of y’all…

Life happens to me too…

Sadly…
Since the beginning of 2019
I have allowed life’s drama to get in the way
of my health and some of the things I have
wanted to accomplish this year…

One of my goals this year was to run
the “middle half’ which is a half marathon
here in my home town that I have run
for the past two or three years…

I haven’t been able to train because
SOMETHING has come up during the year…
Either that or I had an excuse NOT to train
because MENTALLY – I was WHOOPED

It happens…

But guess what…

Life AIN’T over…..

I remember writing this recently…
I may be whooped but I’m not down…
I simply have to dust myself off and start fresh…

I have told myself that I’m not taking on
ANYTHING NEW for the remainder of this year
so that I can focus on my health…

After my doctors visit yesterday
I’ve decided that my “health goal” is to finish
the year off STRONG and work to be the best ME
that I can be…

I have one more doctors visit in early December
and a wedding to attend…
So let’s see what I can do in just under 2 months!!!

In closing…
I just wanna say this…

I get it…
Life gets in your way…
You get pissed off and wanna quit…

Here’s a little secret…
So do I at times…

Then I remember that I write a blog
where I tell people to NEVER GIVE UP
How hypocritical is that???

So I keep digging…

My hope is that you will too!!!

Thanks for reading and have a great rest of the week!!!

Joel
#NeverGiveUp




A trip down memory lane

Posted by [email protected] on September 27, 2019 at 12:50 PM Comments comments (0)

Howdy!!!
Happiest of Fridays to one and all…
That’s right…
We have successfully navigated one more
week of work and heading right for a time
of serious rest and relaxation…

If you are rand new to my website
and / or my facebook page this is the portion
of the show where I send out a
GREAT BIG WELCOME to the show!!!

I hope you will take a moment and visit
all of the pages here on the website so that|
you can get a feel for who I am and why
I feel lead to talk about this thing called LIFE…

Soooo…
The above picture is a car that was in front of me
on my way to work earlier this week…

It’s an old Dodge Dart…
And boy does it bring back some memories…

You see…
When I first started driving at 16 years old
my mom’s second husband owned
a 1967Dodge Dart that looked VERY SIMILAR
to this one…

That car…
As I sit here trying to type I can’t help but laugh
at some of the stories I have…

I’m just gonna say this right now…
I absolutely HATE the word “STEP MOM / DAD”…
:/

There I said it…

Anyway…
For the purpose of this story I will use it and then
go wash my hands after I’m done typing…
:P

Before I got my license…
That old Dart sat in our drive way for months
because it wouldn’t start and my…
STEP DAD…
(that just crawls over me)
Couldn’t figure out why it wouldn’t start…

My best friend (Aaron) used to pester the crap
out of me to pop the hood and try to figure out what was wrong
with it because we both knew that would be the car I would
end up driving to school someday…

Now…
The “stepdad” worked nights…
That meant that he slept during the days
and well into the afternoons…

On occasions…
He would get up and decide to run errands
like go to the bank, hit the grocery store for one item,
or whatever…

Once he’d leave…
Aaron and I would get busy trying to figure out
WHY this car wouldn’t start…
It took us a few days of sneaking around
while HE was gone but one day after a “hail mary”
idea that Aaron had, we got that old car started!!!

Aaron had the idea of poring gas straight in to the carburetor
to act as a starter fluid of sorts…

Sure enough…
IT WORKED…

We let that car run for a good 20 -30 minutes
before we shut it down and when we did…
Smoke just BILLOWED from under the hood
and both of us FREAKED out thinking
ohhhhhhh crap!!!
He’s gonna come home
and we are gonna get busted!!!

Well…
He DID come home…
And just like in a movie…
The smoke dissipated SECONDS before he pulled up…

We let a few days go by before Aaron and I began hounding him
about letting me drive to school “when the car was fixed”…
And then it happened…

“Boys. You get that car started and Joel can drive it to school”…

The look on that man’s face when we ran outside and cranked that
old car up was FRIGGIN’ PRICELESS!!!
:lol:

From that day forward…
THAT was my first car…

That old car was a CLUNKER at best
with NO REVERSE

As much as I loved driving that car
I hated having to look for just the right parking spot
so that I didn’t have to BACK OUT of it…

One particular afternoon…
I was in a hurry to get home from school but I wanted to stop at the store
for a Dr. Pepper and a pack of cigarettes and I found my favorite parking spot
was empty – so I pulled straight in and hopped out of the car…

You can imagine MY SURPRISE when I came out of the store
and my old clunker was GONE!!!

Holy CRAP!!!
(that’s NOT what I REALLY said)
;)

Somebody stole my car!!!

Yeaaaaaah….
Ummmm…
No…

You see…
Some of you may remember from past blogs
that I have ADD…

Apparently I jumped out of the car
and FORGOT to put the DAMN thing in PARK
and it rolled down the embankment and into the shrubs…
I had to call a friend of mine to come get me out…

And speaking of ADD…

My bestest friend in the whole wide world (Jenni)
tells a story about me looking for my sunglasses
while driving…

I don’t tell it NEARLY as well as she does but here it goes…

Apparently we were hanging out one afternoon and just riding
around when the sun got in my eyes…
Being that I couldn’t see, I started looking for my sunglasses
and just let go of the steering wheel to look for them in the back seat…
WITH NO WARNING!!!
(sorry about that girly)
:P

Years later I can say I really don’t remember much about that
but if she says it happened…
Then it did…
And fortunately no one got hurt...

That old clunker also kept me and my friends in all the
soft drink money we ever needed…

The “STEP DAD” used to work for the local newspaper office
and used the old beater as his delivery car early in the morning…
In the trunk, he kept the bank bag which was full of change
and APPARENTLY he NEVER ZIPPED it up…

I remember the first time we found change in the car…
I had the car at school and I had gotten mad about something…
(Me??? Mad??? Shocking, huh.)
:roll:

I raised my foot and I kicked the snot out of the rear quarter panel
and it was like pulling the arm on a winning slot machine!!!
Quarters came spilling out of the rust holes in PILES!!!
We must have collected 20 bucks in change that day…

Soooo…
Anytime we needed a softdrink…
We kicked the car!!!
:D


Ya know…
That old car was my first experience at diagnosing a problem…
Even though Aaron and I snuck around to figure the problem out
we did it without any outside help…

We did it as a team…

In closing…
I just wanna say this…

No matter what you are going thru in life…
Surrounding yourself with the BEST people
is the BEST way to get the job done…

The people on your team may change
from time to time but the goal is going to be the same…

Winning…

For me…
It started out with an old Dodge Dart…
and now 35 years later…
Team Tompkins is better than ever!!!

I've got the best friends and family that money CAN'T buy
and I'm still out here winning my battles with Cirrhosis
as well as Hemochromatosis!!!

If you are still reading this...
If you are fighting a battle of any sort
be it health, financial, mental...
And doing so ALONE...

Start building your team...

Surround yourself with people who
will ALWAYS lift you up and ALWAYS
have your back...

I'm very thankful for mine...

Have a great weekend!!!
Joel
#NeverGiveUp




I've never forgotten

Posted by [email protected] on September 11, 2019 at 8:00 PM Comments comments (0)


Howdy…

Happiest of Wednesdays to you all…
I hope your week has been good to you thus far…

If you are new to the website and / or Facebook page
this is the portion of the show where I send out a
GREAT BIG WELCOME to you…

I hope you will take a second and check out all the pages
that I have put together so you can get a feel for who
I am and why I enjoy talking about life…
There will (not) be a pop quiz afterwards
I can assure you…
;)

Being that today is the 18th anniversary of 9/11
I want to share with you what happened to me
that day…

For starters…
It was my first day at a new job…
I was working for a home infusion company that delivered
medications to patients – primarily cancer patients…

Now…
We all know what happened during the early part of
the day so I will spare you the details and not rehash history…

The tv in the office was on all day…
The phones stayed quiet all day…
No doctor’s offices were calling…
No pharmacies…
No insurance companies…
Nothing…

Late in the afternoon our pharmacist finally
got an order for some medications to be delivered
to a small town south of Columbia, Tn
called Petersburg and being the new guy
everyone decided I should take it “to introduce me”
to the work environment…

It took me a while to realize I got it because it was
damn near 2 hours down there and no one wanted to go…

When I FINALLY reached the address I was shocked
at what I saw…

A single wide trailer that was pretty well overgrown
and toys scattered all over the yard…
I remember thinking how can someone live like this???
I had already heard from the office that she had
SIX KIDS and lived in some pretty rough conditions
but I didn’t expect this…

As I unpacked all the medicines from the van
two teens (a boy and a girl) came out and introduced
themselves and asked if they could help…

Reluctantly, I said yes and the three of us
became quick friends…

We made several trips to the van
that day as the medication was for their mom
who was very sick and wasn’t speaking very much…
They asked me questions about the events of the day…
They asked me if I had ever been to New York…
They were just thirsty for knowledge
and some attention…

Finally…
I had to get down to the business of explaining
the paper work (insurance) to their mom….

That proved to be almost impossible because
she didn’t really speak…
It was most grunts and nods and a lot
of finger pointing…

That first visit couldn’t get over with quick enough…

I mean…
The patient was rude…
The house was a God awful mess…
And four of the six kids were LOUD…

As I left the house…
The two teens followed me out and thanked me
for bringing the medicines...

“Will you be the one coming back out next week???”
I’m not sure…

“Well, we hope so!!!”

Sure enough…
The next week comes and guess who gets the call…

Only because I KNEW where it was…
(Those guys really KNEW how to milk a situation!!!)

With every passing visit the conversation with
the two oldest kids became more and more friendly…

How was the trip???
Gooood – how’s school going???

AWESOME!!!

We genuinely enjoyed talking to each other
and I actually looked forward to seeing them…

Mom on the other hand…
She was a tough nut to crack…

As the weeks went on…
I could barely get mom to say a word…
Stilll a lot of grunts, head nods, and finger pointing…
When she did speak…
It was a very soft yeah or naw
I don’t think I ever heard her say a full sentence…
Lord knows I tried…

Every visit I would sit down in a chair next to her
and watch a few minutes of tv as they were still
covering the clean up nearly 24 hours a day…
I would ask her questions to try to force her to
talk to me and still…
Nuthin’…

As we went in to the holidays…
This was sometime around Thanksgiving…
A young lady in the office was looking for a family
in need, as she wanted to adopt a family for the
holidays…

Needless to say I spoke up with a quickness…

I remember telling Gina the story of the little young lady
with the six kids living in a dump of a trailer…
How the two oldest were such good kids and did the
best they could with what they have…

After hearing the story, Gina decided THIS was going to
be the family that the company adopts and we were going
to collect money and buy them Christmas…

Something I had never done…

I don’t remember how much we collected…
But it was enough to make a nice Christmas for the family
and Gina wanted to make sure she was there when it was delivered…

The week before Christmas…
Gina and I drove down to Petersburg and unloaded the medicine first…
We tried to hide the fact that we had “gifts” in the van but we failed
miserably…
There were gifts for every kid and a small artificial tree
for the family in the back of the van…

My two friends were SOOOO HAPPY to see a present…
The boy opened his and saw a wallet…
Gina had to calm him down and show him the 20 dollar bill
she had placed in it…

The girl was OVER THE TOP excited to get a make up kit…
You woulda thought they had both hit the lottery!!!

By this time I’m kinda emotional as I have never been
a part of something THIS heartwarming…
I mean…
Seeing two teens get excited over a wallet and a makeup kit???
That’s the stuff WE take for granted…

So I just wanted to collect myself before we made our way home…
But I wasn’t ready for what came next…

I had excused myself in order to hide my emotions
and went to the van to put things away…

As I’m standing at the back of the van someone taps
me on the shoulder very lightly…
When I turn around mom is standing there
with a smile on her face and says just as clear as day…
I just wanted to hug you and say thank you for what you have done…

(18 years later and I still get misty eyed at this point…;)

That was the last time I ever saw mom…

You see…
On New Year’s Day 2002 I got the call that mom
had passed away…

When I returned to work…
I made arrangements with the office so that I
could go to the visitation to pay my respects…

When I get there…
The first two people I see are the two oldest children…
I remember hugging both of them and the escorted me
to the casket…

While we stood there talking about their mom
another woman walked up and said
YOU MUST BE JOEL!!!
I’VE HEARD SOOOOO MUCH ABOUT YOU!!!

She then explains to me that she is the kids Aunt
that she and her sister (mom) talked every day
and that her sister just looooooooved me to death!!!

Ummmmmm…
What????

Oh honey, she loved it when you came over!!!
We would be on the phone and she would say
I have to go do my hair now, my boyfriend is coming over!!!

Seriously???

And what you and that sweet lady friend did for
those kids meant the world to her…
I know she died a happy woman because her kids
finally had a Christmas…

I hugged her and thanked her for sharing her story
with me and then excused myself as it was a long
drive back to Nashville…

A long drive made LONGER because I may have
cried all the way back to town…

I had NO CLUE about the impact that I had on this woman…
I was just doing what I do…
I mean…
Yeah, I helped Gina put Christmas together but I had NEVER
done ANYTHING like that before…

In closing…

All I want to say is this…

Be kind...
You may NEVER know how much your kindness

means to someone in their time of need...


In MANY WAYS September 11th is by far the worst day
many of us will ever experience…
Yet for me…
I met someone who changed my life for the better that day
and I never had a clue…

Thank you Cynthia…
I’ve never forgotten…

Y'all have a great day...
Joel

#NeverGiveUp
#NeverForget



That's not being selfish, thats being smart.

Posted by [email protected] on September 4, 2019 at 7:55 AM Comments comments (0)


Howdy…

Happiest of Tuesdays to you all…
I hope everyone enjoyed a nice three day
weekend and is looking forward to a short
week just as I am!!!

Today is my Monday AND my Friday all
wrapped up in one little package and I’m
extremely excited about that…

If you are new to the website and / or my
facebook page, this is the portion of the show
where I send out a heartfelt WELCOME and
I ask you to please check out every page here
on the website so that you get a better feel for
who this knuckle head is that talks about life…

Today’s topic is one that kinda concerns me…

I never want to be thought of as selfish…
So much so in fact…
I looked the word up for clarity
before I share my thoughts…

selfish
adjective

self·ish | \ ˈsel-fish \

Definition of selfish

1: concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others

Let me explain where I’m coming from here…

Just the other day…
I was asked if I would be interested in taking a training class
for a new outreach program at our church…
I’m SURE it’s a wonderful program but right now
just isn’t a good time for me…

So I had to turn it down…

Let’s face facts here…
2019 HAS NOT been a stellar year here
in the Tompkins household…

If you have followed me since the beginning
of the year, then you know we have dealt
with 2 strokes with my mom…
A week of the flu with me…
The death of my dad’s wife while getting him
used to living in the retirement center that he
and Ann were supposed to move in to the day
AFTER she passed away…

But wait…
There’s more…

Our church family has been the topic of many a
conversations as of late as well…
To the point that I was ready and willing to
remove my family from the church…
I even told the district superintendent
of my disgust with the situation and
asked him to accept my resignation
from the church…

Since that time I have come to the conclusion
that my actions were not necessary and I have
returned to my home church, knowing there is
still work to be done…

So…
When the invitation came to take that training
for the church, I had to really THINK about it…
I thought about it for SEVERAL hours before I sent
the text back because I love our church and I want
to do what I can to help GROW our church…

In this case…
I just don’t think I can do it…

Mentally…
I’m worn out…

I’ve worried about BOTH of my parents since January…
I’ve tried to be the best son to both of them and at times
I feel like an utter failure…
Not all the time…

The situation at church is something
that I’m not really in a position to speak about publicly
and all I can say is we are utilizing guest pastors currently
and the last 6 months haven’t been very uncomfortable…

All of this on top of the fact that I am supposed to be
training for my next half marathon which is next month…
The training has been nonexistent because I have these
mental road blocks due to everything that has happened
this year and I can barely get a 4 mile run in right now…

Sadly…
It looks like I’m going to have to forgo this year’s race
and train for something in the spring…

I know…
Some of y’all are thinking:
Joel – what about NEVER GIVE UP???

Ya kinda gotta START before ya GIVE UP…

All kidding aside…
It is not smart to go out and try to run 13 miles without
training for it…
I sure as hell don’t wanna hurt myself….

Now…
Earlier I posted the definition of the word SELFISH…
In a nutshell it says:
CONCERNED FOR ONE’S SELF

Reading this…
It may appear that I AM being a bit selfish…
At the same time though…
I can’t give my EVERYTHNG to one more thing…
How is that giving 100 percent
when you have ZERO in the tank???

It’s time to step back and take a deep breath…
Enjoy what you have for the rest of the year…
(all 4 months of it)
and come out fighting in 2020…

In closing...
I just want to say this…

My goal this year has been the same as the past few years…
Be the healthiest me I can be and run one half marathon…

My goals took a little bit of a beating so far this year…
Nothing I can’t overcome with some restructuring
of what I want the rest of this year to look like…

Right now…
I just want the end of year to look a lot better than
the beginning did and so far it’s looking that way…

Soon it will be time to get back to work and fight
the good fight…

I’m not giving up…
I’m just hitting the reset button...

That’s not being selfish…
That’s being smart…

Y’all have a great week!!!

Joel
#NeverGiveUp




Be an example, not a bouncer.

Posted by [email protected] on August 27, 2019 at 11:45 AM Comments comments (1)


Howdy…

Happiest of Tuesdays to you all…
I hope your week has started off on the right foot
and has been as eventful as you have expected, thus far…


For those of you who may be new to the website and / or
my Facebook page, I’d like to send a very warm and heartfelt
WELCOME to the neighborhood!!!
I encourage you to visit every page so that you can get a feel
for who I am and why I’m here talking about life…

So let’s jump in to today’s topic…

For starters…

I need to apologize for being rather sporadic over the past month…
I’ve had some things weighing on me that I wanted to share
but because of the timing and the need for “restraint” I felt
that my best bet was to remain silent until I could be more
factual and come in here with a heart for the truth…

Sooooo…

If you have visited my Facebook page then undoubtedly
you have seen Philippians 4:13 as the header of that page…
If you are not familiar with that scripture, it reads:
I can do all things though Christ who strengthens me…
(it’s ok if you don’t know it – I won’t judge)

The reason that is the header of that page is because
THAT is how I live my life…

When you have Non Alcohol Related Cirrhosis of the Liver
as well as Hereditary Hemochromatosis, you kinda need a little help…

Soooo…

I’ve asked the big man upstairs to help me get through this fight
and so far, he has done so…
That’s why I’m here…
That’s why I write my blog…
That’s why I work so hard for my church family…

Because I know that God will not give us more than we can handle
and with the power of prayer we can overcome what ever gets in our way…

Recently I was involved in a very heated discussion
during a meeting where some “church criteria”
was being discussed…
A few people chimed in saying that some
people had asked for prayers and that those folks
had felt neglected…

During a time of rebuttal and individual became
quite irate and spoke up saying:

“yeah, well they don’t go to any of our churches so there’s that”

Ummmm…
Are you kidding me???

Someone is dying and the family asks for prayer???
Someone else has had a stroke???
Another lost a loved one and moved into a nursing home, alone…

So in YOUR mind…
Because THEY don’t attend ANY of our churches then
they don’t NEED prayer???

That’s not how this game works people…
Not by the rules that I learned as a kid…
And certainly not by the rules that I live by as an adult!!!

HOW DARE YOU deny someone prayer because they are
NOT a part of your little church clique…

The church is in the business of healing…
We are NOT in the business of being a social club
and if that is WHY you are here then you are
in the wrong building!!!

Now some of y’all are probably saying
Damn, Joel is worked up today…

You are right…
I am…

You see…
As a kid I lost all hope in my church…
I quit going for many years and thanks to Deanna (my wife)
I have been going to church now for 20 (plus) years…

For nearly nine years now I have battled my illnesses
and I’ve asked God for the courage and strength to just get by…
The good Lord has given me so much more than I have asked
for and I pray with my wife DAILY for those who may be struggling
EVEN IF THEY DON’T ATTEND MY CHURCH

The reason is simple…
I’m a Christian…
THAT’S HOW WE ROLL

I pray for those who need prayer because I know the feeling…

When I was first diagnosed with Cirrhosis of the Liver
I attended Whiteside UMC in Shelbyville, TN
(Quick shout out to pastor Scotty Sorrels)

We held a concert one night and had a gentleman
by the name of Gary Winningham perform…
Gary sang a BEAUTIFUL SONG called “Everything is fine”
that night and the lyrics absolutely spoke to me…

Anyways…
After the show we were standing around talking
and I told Gary how much that song spoke to me
and that I had just been diagnosed with my illness…
Gary wasted NO TIME and brought his team and our
entire congregation together to pray for me
and my healing…

I could ABSOLUTELY feel the power of love
and prayer going through me as they all prayed…
It was the most beautiful moment of my life…
(next to marrying Deanna that is)

In closing…
All I want to say is this…

Life is hard enough without prayer…
If someone comes to you and says
HEY CAN YOU PRAY FOR ME IN CHURCH???
Don’t deny them just because they don’t attend
your place of worship…

Lift them up in prayer
Even if you DON’T attend church regularly…
Be an example, not a bouncer…

Y’all have a great week!!!

Joel

#NeverGiveUp



This happened last week

Posted by [email protected] on August 16, 2019 at 11:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Howdy…

Guess what day it is…
Guess. What. Day. It Is….

It’s FRIDAY Y’all!!!
We have made it to the weekend
and if that doesn’t get the blood pumpin’
I don’t know what will…

If you are new to the website and / or
my Facebook page then I would like to
offer up a warm WELCOME to you…

Please take a second to visit all of the pages
here on the site just so you get a feel for
who this knuckle head is that is talking about
LIFE – cuz that’s what I do…

So let’s get started…

This past weekend my wife and I enjoyed
an afternoon of bowling and video games with
her co-workers…

During one of our bowling games a mutual
friend of ours came up to me and asked if I
would share my story about how
(non alcohol related) Cirrhosis of the Liver
became a “thing” in my life…

I’m always more than happy to tell this
story because I feel that the MORE the word
gets out then I’m doing my part to help STOP it
from hurting someone else…

You see…
Excess fat in the liver will begin to cause scar tissue
to develop and guess what Cirrhosis is…
SCAR TISSUE

For some reason…
Doctors will not share that information
with patients…

Over the past eight years I have
NEVER met another patient who has said
“yeah, my doctor warned me about fatty liver”

We talked for probably five minutes…
In that period of time I told her that when a doctor
tells you that you have a fatty liver then you need to
LISTEN to him / her and take action…

I could see the fear starting to creep in to her
eyes as I told her how it began and that you
don’t have to be a drinker to get this disease…


I was getting to the best part of the story when
I realized it was my turn to bowl and I went
over to throw my two gutter balls
(yes – two)
:roll:

and when I returned they had walked away…

You see…
I had already told her that I had lost a ton of weight
and had avoided need a liver transplant by working
hard at getting my health in check…

I’m not saying that I will ever win the war
as I know that my Liver is damaged…
But I can top it from getting worse…
Which I have done…

What I didn’t get the chance to tell her
was this…

My life is absolutely AWESOME…

Do I wish that I didn’t have to deal with
Cirrhosis of the Liver???

Absolutely…

Do I dwell on it????

Nope…

The funny thing is that my life is
pretty much normal…
To the point that I forget that I am
supposed to be sick…

Now mind you…
I’m human…

I have my good days and I have my bad days…
The good days far outweigh the bad…
(Thank God)

I think the most important thing I would have
shared with this young lady is this…

Early on in my fight with Cirrhosis
I made the decision to surround myself with
people who will lift me up and keep me positive…
People who will laugh with me…
People who will pray with me…
People who will push me to be my best…

I think I’ve done a pretty damn good job of that…

In closing…
Guys, it’s so important to listen to what that doctor says…
Don’t brush it off when they say you have fatty liver…

My life is great NOW…
But it was a lot of hard work…

Y’all have a great weekend
and I will see you soon!!!

Joel

#NeverGiveUp



How do we make this stop?

Posted by [email protected] on August 5, 2019 at 12:05 PM Comments comments (0)







Howdy…
Happiest of Monday’s to you all…
I hope you all had a nice weekend and got
plenty of rest over the past 8 hours…

If you are new to the website and / or FACEBOOK page
this is the portion of the show where I say a great big
WELCOME TO THE NEIGHBORHOOD!!!

I hope you will take a second and visit every page
here on the website just so you understand
who I am and why I talk about life…

For the most part…
I enjoy keeping my blog light hearted so
that I can put a smile on someone’s face
who may need that boost…

Or as I call it…
“A kick in the cant’s”

Today isn’t one of those days…

Sadly…
This is another one of those postings
where we have to address yet another dark day
here in our country…

Over the weekend…
The United States lost 29 citizens
in 2 mass shootings in a matter of 24 hours…

20 died in El Paso Texas…
9 died in Dayton Ohio…
Countless others were injured in both…

From what I’m hearing in the news
it sounds as if the shooter in El Paso had
a problem with Latino people and had written
a 4 page document saying as much…

The shooter in Dayton…
He was known to have violent tendencies
as far back as 9 years ago when he was in High school…
He was kicked out of school for creating a “hit list”
yet that alone didn’t appear to be cause for someone
to arrest him or have a mental evaluation done on him…

As someone who owns a gun or two…
The actions that took place this weekend
ABSOLUTELY SICKEN ME…

Don’t get me wrong here ALL KILLINGS
of innocent people make me sick
as I’m sure it does anyone who
has a conscious…

Thanks to the UPTICK in the amount
of mass shootings in recent years I find myself
thinking about WHEN it happens and not IF it happens…

I don’t mind telling you all that in a large confined crowd
I find myself getting nervous these days…

I think about it at work…
Where am I going???
What am I gonna do???

Over the past year or two I’ve thought
about it at church as well…

And now that school is about to start…
I think about the kids and their teachers…

I also think about HOW and WHY this keeps happening…

Go back and re-read what I said about the 2 shooters
from this weekend…

One was filled with HATE…
The other was mentally off…

Folks…
Whether you like it or not…
Mental health is our biggest problem…

If you wanna walk into a Walmart and KILL people
because of their SKIN COLOR then you may have
a screw or two that needs some adjusting…

Now for those of you saying
Joel, you’ve lost your damn mind!!!
WE DO HAVE A GUN PROBLEM…

I dedicate this portion of the blog to you….

I said…
Mental health is our BIGGEST PROBLEM…

I never said we DON’T have a GUN PROBLEM…

The problem with guns is this…
They are too easy to get…
Period…

Why???

Because people who THINK they are responsible
gun owners actually ARE NOT as responsible
as they’d like to think…

I’ve read stories of small kids killing a sibling
because dear old dad left his weapon unattended…

I’ve read stories where countless numbers of
weapons have been stolen from cars…

The stories are out there folks…

So…

How do we fix the “gun problem”???

First…
You do so by making the gun owner responsible
for the actions of HIS / HER gun…

After all…
If the gun is locked away
it can’t fall in to the wrong hands
and commit a crime, right???

If the gun is stolen from the locked
facility that you have kept it in you
should report it stolen IMMEDIATELY
or face possible “accessory to murder”
charges if that weapon takes the life of
another human…

Next…

The trigger man in a murder of any kind
needs be put to death…
Period.

I believe he / she should get a “fair trial”
but if you are caught with the proverbial
“smoking gun” like these two gunmen
were this weekend…
There will be NO APPEALS
and the weapon will be destroyed…

I also believe that during the time of the
initial investigation that any and all firearms
found at the gunman’s residence should also
be confiscated and destroyed as well…

Sadly…
None of this will EVER become a reality
because the death penalty is too cruel…

How is THAT for irony…

In closing…
I just wanna say this…

I hope that we can all come together
and find a way to keep each other safe…
I don’t care who you are…
Where you come from…
I don’t care if you are gay or straight…

We are supposed to be
ONE NATION UNDER GOD…

I pray that we all stay safe and find way
to make these senseless killings stop…

Amen.

Y’all have a safe week.

Joel
#NeverGiveUp






Celebrities aren't the only one who can benefit from your help

Posted by [email protected] on July 20, 2019 at 1:35 AM Comments comments (0)

Howdy…
Happiest of Fridays to you all…
That’s right…
If you are reading this then you have made it
to the weekend, so congratulations…

If you happen to be new to the website
and / or my facebook page I’d like to
extend a very warm and heart felt
welcome to the neighborhood….

Please take a second to visit every page
just so you get a feel for who this knuckle head
is that is talking about life….
Cuz that’s what we do here…

Soooooo….
Today’s topic really hits close to home with me…

Every so often…
You hear of a celebrity in need of an organ transplant…
Being that I have (Non Alcohol related) Cirrhosis of the Liver
the two big ones that come to mind are
David Crosby and Evel Knievel

Now…
Mind you…
I DON’T KNOW the ends and outs of HOW
these two gentlemen were able to obtain
their Liver transplants as quickly as they did…

What I CAN tell you is that MY doctor
told me that the wait was quite lengthy
and if I wanted to avoid that I needed
to work really hard to lose weight…
Which I did…
And I have avoided NEEDING
a Liver transplant thus far thanks
to my hard work…

But someone like David Crosby can get a buddy
to cough up the cash for a transplant???

Yep…
Phil Collins (Genesis lead singer) paid for Crosby’s
transplant back in 1994 and even at THAT TIME
people were asking if his “fame and celebrity” had
anything to do with HOW QUICKLY his “new Liver”
became available…

Then…
There is my child hood hero…
EVEL KNIEVEL

In April of 1988 Knievel announced
that he was in need of a Liver transplant
thanks to Hepatitis C that he received after
one of his numerous blood transfusions following
one of his spectacular crashes…

By January of 1999 he was resting comfortably
after receiving a new Liver….

Only 9 months after his announcement…

How many people were passed over because
Mr. Knievel once had some kind of celebrity status???

More recently…
Stevie Wonder has announced that he will be taking
time off from touring as he is in need of a new Kidney…

And let’s not forget all the LOVE that former TITANS player
Albert Haynesworth has gotten since his announcement…

Friends…
There are more people out there in this world that need our help…

People that you don’t even know…

People with families…

Just like celebrities…

The big difference…
We don’t have the ability to spread the word like THEY do…

I mean, come on…
Can you imagine what CNN would say if I went to them
and said this…

“Hey, Joel Tompkins needs a Liver – I need that published!!!”

Do you REALLY THINK thousands of people
will come to my rescue???

That’s why sometimes you see folks driving around town
with a sign on their car…

Wearing t-shirts…

And in some cases…
Renting a bill boards…

Now…
Earlier I said that I have worked HARD to stay off the transplant list…
I’m still not in need of being on that list and I have NO PLANS
of being put on that list…

Soooo…
You may be wondering why this is so important to me…
Over the years of writing about my struggles as well as my
victories, I have had the opportunity to meet people who have
had health situations similar to mine...
I’ve met people with various forms of Cancer…
Some have survived
and sadly…
Some have not because the need wasn’t met in time…

One of the GREATEST THINGS about having
this website is the fact that some of my friends
have asked me to talk with people that are struggling
and I'm ALWAYS happy to do so...

The one thing that I would say that these
conversations have had in common
is that the other person is SCARED...
They don't know where to start
or where to reach out for help since
their resources are so limited...

Unlike the resources of a celebrity....

Now...
Please don't get me wrong....
EVERYONE is entitled to get help...
I'm not saying "celebrity status" should be denied...
I'm simply saying that it has been overplayed...

I don't care if you are
THE BEST SONG WRITER...
THE BEST ACTOR...
or...
THE BEST ATHELETE
And I damn sure don't care how DEEP
your wallet is....

It's called a LIST for a reason...

In closing…
I need for you all to remember this…

Those people aren’t famous…
Their fight is just as important as the next celebrity
that we hear of that is in need of health care…
No matter if it’s Kidney transplant or a Liver transplant…
Celebrities aren’t the only ones who can benefit
from your help…

A few days ago...
I posted on the facebook page about a buddy of mine
who is in need of a kidney transplant...

He is one of us...
A regular guy...
With a regular job...

But the heart of a LION...

If you are the PROUD OWNER of O POSITIVE BLOOD
and would like to help this man out, I'd greatly appreciate it...

Y'all have a great weekend.

Joel
#NeverGiveUp
#ErnestNeedsAKidney




Why is racism still a thing???

Posted by [email protected] on July 13, 2019 at 1:35 AM Comments comments (0)

 

Howdy…
Happiest of Thursdays to you all…
I hope that your week has been very productive
and that you have some serious plans to
do something fun this weekend…

We have come to that portion of the show
where I like to send a HUGE shout out
to those who may be new to the website
and / or FACEBOOK page…

Sooooo…

WELCOME!!!

Please take just a second to look around
and visit every page so that you can get a better
feel for who this knuckle head is who is taking
up your time today talking about life…

Cuz that’s what I do...
Talk about life…

Today…
I have to apologize right off the bat…
My blog is usually uplifting and humorous
and I try my BEST to steer clear of politics or
anything that could be connected to politics…

So…
I apologize for being REAL today…
I apologize for speaking the TRUTH
(atleast the TRUTH as I see it)

If you wish not to hear what’s coming next
I would advise you to stop right here…

I’ll give you a minute to decide if this
is for you…

Now….
For those of you who are still here…
Thank you…

Folks…
Here we are in the 2nd week of July, 2019
and we are still having to deal with race issues…

What in the HELL???

Over the past two weeks there have been
THREE incidents that I’ve heard about on CNN
that absolutely make me sick to my damn stomach…

The most recent one was this…

The manager of a Burger King (in Florida) was sitting at a table
working on some paper work when he was approached by one of his
employees who asked him a question in SPANISH

The manager responded in Spanish and the conversation ended…
Or it should have…

But it didn’t…

Two elderly white women decided to drop their two cents
of nonsense in to this man’s business…

One blurts out:
“if you’re gonna talk Mexican, go back to Mexico”…
The manager politely tells them he is actually Puertorican
and that she is being very disrespectful and wants her
to leave HIS store…

The two old buzzards refused to leave until
the manager threatened to call the police on them…
at which time they did leave saying they
WOULD NEVER COME BACK!!!
(ummmmm, GOOD.)

The whole incident was captured on video by another customer…

The next incident happened in Californina

A white guy calls the cops on a black man for TRESSPASING

Wait…
But WAS he trespassing???

Nope…
The gentleman in question was OUTSIDE the building
waiting on a friend to arrive…

The white guy took exception to this and called the cops
all while his young son BEGGED him “don’t do this…”
If you read the story the kid certainly sounds smarter
than his dad…

Finally after a few minutes…
The black man’s friend arrives and the episode is over…
But only after the WHOLE THING is recorded by the man
who was being treated as a criminal…

And for what reason???

THERE WAS NONE!!!

One more story for you…

This story particularly hurts me as this happened
in my home town…

In the early hours of July 4th of this year the city
of Nashville lost one of their police officers in a fiery crash…
The crash occurred when a young black female decided
to avoid being pulled over for driving with her headlights
on high beam…

The original officer turned on his lights and the “suspect”
slowed down but never stopped…
The officer ran the tags and found that the car was NOT stolen
but before he could pull her over she deiced to RUN
from the officer…

The officer reports that at that time he decided NOT
to pursue the car…

Moments later…
As officer Anderson was on his way to SEPARATE CALL
the young lady crashed in to his patrol car and it spun
in to a utility pole and caught fire…

Officer Anderson was pronounced dead at the scene…

In the days after the accident…
Nashville residents were saddened that this
officer who meant so much to his community had
been killed in such a horrific way…

People wanted to know what charges this young lady
was going to face…

Would it be murder???
Vehicular homicide???

I can tell that vehicular homicide and driving on a suspended license
are two that I know of and I’m sure MORE are coming…

Then a note from the teen’s “family” is sent to the media
in which they speak of the great sorrow they feel for the
officer’s family…

Then…

As this letter hits all of the local news facebook pages
the feelings of atleast one “FAMILY MEMBER” was brought
to the surface…

In a facebook post that has since been deleted
a young person named Jaylah really lays out
her racist feelings towards white people…

While she’s blasting the "white folks"
she blames officer Anderson for his own death
by asking why was he even chasing her???

I’m gonna stop right there as it still pisses me off…

Please, if you want to read the comments that her “sister”
made please go to any of the local news channels in Nashville
and look for the letter from the family of Jayonah Brown
and read the comments section…
Plenty of screen shots of all the hate

So…
Do you SEE where I’m going with this???

When was the LAST TIME you
actually read the PLEDGE of ALLEGIANCE???

ONE NATION

UNDER GOD

INDIVISBLE

WITH LIBERTY AND JUSTICE

FOR ALL...

Folks…

Have we not learned a damn thing
in the past 50 years???

Everyone wants to celebrate our nation’s freedom
but WE (the collective we) don’t want to share
those freedoms with anyone who is DIFFERENT
than us…

We are no longer INDIVISIBLE
We are more divided NOW than we have
ever been…

Liberty and justice for all???
How do you figure???

A man gets harassed for speaking Spanish
Another gets harassed for standing outside of a building...
and a dead officer is hated for his job…

We are no longer the UNITED STATES of AMERICA…
It feels MORE like the DIVIDED STATES of HYPOCRITES…

In closing…
If you are STILL reading this and NOT OFFENDED…
I thank you for holding on…

I love MY country just as much as the next guy…
It just hurts me to NO END seeing all of the fighting
and hatred that has been on display…

So here’s what I wanna see…

Some kindness…

I don’t care what it is…
Just be kind to someone…

If it felt good…
Do it again…

If it didn’t…
Do it until it does…

Then…
NEVER GIVE UP

Maybe then we will get back
to being the land that we loved…

Y’all have a great weekend.

Joel

#NeverGiveUp



it's lake season - be smart

Posted by [email protected] on July 5, 2019 at 2:20 PM Comments comments (0)




Howdy…
Happiest of Fridays to you all…
If you are reading this then you have survived
the Fourth of July festivities…

Or as we call it on the farm…
WORLD WAR FOUR…
(we skipped 3 all together)
:/

Without going in to politics here…
Don’t you find it fascinating that we celebrate
our freedom from the Brits with loud fireworks
made in China???

And…

If you live in Tennessee you can give said fireworks
to a kid to blow his fingers off of his hand but
driving while using your phone is illegal…

Makes sense, huh???

ANYWAYS….

This is the portion of the show where I welcome all of
the new friends who have checked out my facebook page
and decided to jump over here and see what this thing
I call a website is all about…

Please take a second to look around and get a feel
for who this knuckle head is who talks about life…
There WILL not be a quiz later…

As the name of the website suggest…
I like to talk about life…

Sometimes it’s about living with Cirrhosis
Sometimes it’s about living with Hemochromatosis
Most times…
It’s about life in general and just how I make the best of it…

However…

Today I want to talk about something that is near and dear to my heart…
Water safety…

If you were on my facebook page yesterday
You saw a story that I shared about a gentleman who
drowned on my home lake…

Normandy Lake is a very secluded water way
that is almost like a hidden gem so to speak…
Tims Ford Lake is a very popular lake that is just
a stone throw away and has a great park with
cabins and walking trails and all the amenities
you can think of….

Normandy just has a dam and a couple of
run down camp grounds…

Fishing on Normandy is GREAT if you know you are doing…
Trust me…
It took me a long time to figure it out…
:P

There are lots of logs and under water timber
which played into this poor man’s drowning yesterday…
The rescue squad even said they had a hard time locating
his body because of the timber…

Now…

As a boater who has fished Normandy for nearly
fifteen years I can honestly tell you that I have
NEVER seen a rescue boat of ANY KIND
on Normandy Lake

No police boat…
No Coast Guard…
No Fire and Rescue…
NUTHIN’….

When I first started fishing on Normandy
I NEVER wore my life jacket but I kept it close by
in the event of emergency…

I had friends who would see my facebook pictures
of me out on my boat (MY OUGHT) and beg me
to please put my life jacket on because I was always
alone when I fished…

But I refused because I absolutely HATED wearing
that damn thing because it was so HOT and CUMBERSOME

And besides…
Accidents will NEVER happen to me or anyone I know, right???
So let me now catch you up to recent years
and introduce you to a friend of mine…

First of all…
I won’t post his last name as I don’t like
to discuss someone’s life without their permission
but I know he won’t mind as I have told his story before…

A few years ago…
My friend David was out fishing on Percy Priest Lake
with his son and their dog…

David was like me – never wore his life jacket
and never made his son wear his either as they
were both good swimmers…

The wind picked up unexpectedly and as David tells it
something told him to put on his vest and he did…
he even told his son to do so as well…

They began their short trip back to the dock
and they hit the wake of two separate boats that
were traveling in different directions…

The wake slammed in to their boat head on
and within seconds the boat was gone…
David is looking around frantically looking
for his son and dog – thankfully both are ok…
Within a matter of seconds of the accident
a third boat appeared from out of nowhere
and picked them up and took them to the dock…

The next week at work…
David told me his story and followed it up
by saying you know I’m a church going guy right???
To which I replied yeah, why???

Joel, it was GOD who told me to put my vest on
and the guy who rescued us proved it!!!

David told me that as they were being helped
in to this guys boat they were talking about
how this was such a freak accident and that
the gentleman helping him had NOT seen the
accident but simply saw them bobbing in the water…

As they waited for the emergency crews to check them out
the guy shook David’s hand and said it’s a good thing you both
had on your jackets, this coulda been much worse…

After hearing THAT story…
I began wearing my life jacket
and I will NOT take it off…

Why???


Remember earlier in this story how
I said that Normandy is very secluded
and I had NEVER seen a rescue boat
of any kind????


How LONG is it going to take the rescue
team to get to you if they have to
launch their boat before getting to you???
and there are NO promises there's going to be
anyone as close to you as there was for David
and his son...

To this day…
David swears up and down that he will
get his boat back and he knows where it is…
It didn’t take him long to get back out on the lake
after his accident and I can tell you that he and his
son BOTH wear their life jackets too…

Folks…
In closing I just wanna say this…
If you are going to be on a boat PLEASE BE SAFE

Not just a boat…
ANY OPEN WATER for that matter…
I no longer care how GREAT of a swimmer I am…
Accidents DO happen…
Don’t take any unnecessary chances…
Wear the proper safety gear and come home
ALIVE…
Your friends and family will thank you...

Thank you all for visiting and have a GREAT weekend!!!

Joel
#NeverGiveUp






Prep Work

Posted by [email protected] on June 20, 2019 at 2:50 PM Comments comments (0)


Howdy!!!
Welcome to Thursday here
at JoelTompkinsTalksLife
The place where we talk about
all things life...

If you are new to the site
and / or facebook page
This is the portion of the show
where I send out a very
WARM and heart felt
WELCOME to the neighborhood!!!

Please take a second to look around
and check out the website so you can
get a better feel for who this knuckle head
really is that’s running this show…

Today…
I wanna talk about my week dealing
with doctors…

Soooooo…
Last week I kinda went off on dealing with
FMLA paper work….

When that happens
that usually means doctor’s visits aren’t
very far behind….

Sure enough…
There they were…

For those who are new here
I suffer from Non Alcohol Related Cirrhosis of the Liver
as well as Hereditary Hemochromatosis…
(Better known as Iron Over load)

Because of the Iron Overload I have to
see an oncologist twice a year to have
a phlebotomy…
(They drain a pint of blood to rid the body of excess iron)

The past few times I have gone
in for a phlebotomy the phlebotomist
has had a problem finding my veins
for one reason or another…

I try to help them by eating breakfast
and drinking a ton of water…
or so I THOUGHT I was…

I say I thought I was because
this time I changed it up…

I ate a BIG breakfast and drank
at least 64 ounces of water before
I got to the office…

I just wanted to make sure I was ready…
And it worked!!!

It took the nurse one stick to get the needle
in my arm AND to get the blood flowing…

Now…
USUALLY it takes an hour to get a pint
of blood out of me…
This time we were done in 15 minutes!!!
I couldn’t believe it!!!
That was the best experience I had ever had
since being diagnosed with iron over load…

Then it dawned on me…
It all has to do with preparation…

The more “prep” you do in whatever you
are doing – the better the outcome…

In closing…
I just wanna say this…
If you wanna get better at anything in life
the best way to do it is through practice
and preparation…

It’s a shame that it took me all this time
getting stuck with a needle to finally
GET THE POINT!!!
:lol:

I'll be playing here all week.

Y'all have a great weekend and I'll see ya soon!!!

Joel
#NeverGiveUp

 



The best lesson my dad gave me

Posted by [email protected] on June 14, 2019 at 10:40 AM Comments comments (0)

Howdy…

Happiest of Fridays to you all…

That’s right…

The weekend is upon us once again

and I hope you have some SERIOUS PLANS

to have some fun over the next 48 hours…
8)

This is the portion of the show where

I send out the hear felt WELCOME to those

who may be new to the website

and / or FACEBOOK page…

WELCOME to the neighborhood!!!

Please take a second to look around

and familiarize yourself with the place

as their WILL not be a quiz later…
:P

As you may have guessed by the title

of my website…

This is where I talk all things LIFE

Today…

I’m kinda blending two topics:

Father’s Day and FMLA paperwork…

I know – it’s an odd combination…

If you follow my Facebook page you

might have seen a “mild rant” over

some FMLA paper work that I have

to obtain EVERY SIX MONTHS

First off…

I have (NON ALCOHOL RELATED) CIRRHOSIS OF THE LIVER...

It’s not going ANYWHERE…

My doctor fills out the SAME forms TWICE A YEAR

and I can ALMOST recite his answers to the questions

word for word….

That’s why I went on my little rant the other day…

I was told by my H / R dept. that my paper work

was INCOMPLETE because my doctor gave a vague

answer to a question…

The question:

Estimate treatment schedule, if any, including the dates

of any scheduled appointments and the time required for

each appointment, including any recovery time…

The doctors answer every year that I’ve done FMLA:

ONCE EVERY 3 or 4 months…

There has NEVER been a problem with

that answer until this week…

Fortunately for me…

The BEST LESSON my dad ever taught me

was to DOCUMENT EVERYTHING

And I do…

You see…

I keep this black notebook on my desk

with hard copies of each e-mail that deals

with all of my training opportunities as well

as all of my FMLA paperwork…

So when they came to me and said that

it was incomplete I was able to say

wait a minute – it’s the same answer

as it has been for the past several years…

Here’s proof!!!

Suddenly…

Everything is ok with my paper work…

And they THANKED ME for my help…

As I’m typing this…

I’m having a conversation with someone

about car repair…

They are accusing the mechanic of being a rip off artist

and that they have been forced to pay an UNGODLY

amount for break repairs and other repairs they didn’t need…

When I asked them to back up their claim

with a receipt for those false repairs

the look on their face was priceless…

Especially when I said

YOU ARE SCREWED WITH OUT IT…

You know…

As a younger feller I NEVER ENJOYED

being compared to my dad…

But when it comes to documentation

especially when it comes to my health

I will certainly take it…

(Thanks Pops)

In closing…

Sometimes people ask me why I run

if I’m not in it to win races…

Truth be told…

I AM IN IT TO WIN…

But it’s just ONE race…

LIFE

A life where I don’t have to use the FMLA

paper work that I have to jump through

hurdles to get…

So far…

I’m winning.

(drops mic)
;)


To all the dads out there...
Happy Father's Day!!!

Y’all have a great weekend!!!

Joel
#nevergiveup




This just in - I'm not perfect

Posted by [email protected] on June 8, 2019 at 1:10 AM Comments comments (0)


Howdy!!!
Happiest of Fridays to you all…


That’s right…
It’s finally the weekend and if you
live in Middle Tennessee there is a TON
going on this weekend so get out there
and enjoy despite the HORRIBLE weather
we are having…

This is the portion of the show where
I extend a very warm WELCOME to those
who may be new to the website and / or
FACEBOOK page…

Sooooo…

WELCOME...

Please make yourself at home and visit
all of the pages here on the site just
so you get a feel for who I am and
why I do this thing that I do…

Today…
I wanna talk a little about why
NEVER GIVE UP is so important in life
and how EASY it is to forget…

When I was first diagnosed with (non alcohol related)
Cirrhosis of the liver AND Hereditary Hemochromatosis
(Aka: Iron Overload) I decided that I was NOT going to
go down without a fight…

That meant I had a lot of work to do both
PHYSICALLY as well as MENTALLY…

I had to change my mindset on EVERYTHING…

You see…
Every time I lost weight over the years the weight
just came back and sometimes I gained MORE
than I had lost PREVIOUSLY…

I never wanted my wife to be married to a fat ass slob
but there I was…

A fat ass slob with two life threatening illnesses…

I had a choice after finding out my diagnosis…
I could just lay down and say SCREW IT and lead a miserable
life HOPING that I could lose enough weight to get on
liver transplant list if needed…

OR…

I could fight like HELL and prove the NAY SAYERS WRONG
and beat the DAYLIGHTS outta Cirrhosis…

Now…

In all fairness I KNOW I will NEVER WIN the war….
I have Cirrhosis and I can’t change that fact…

However…

I have stopped it from getting worse…
(It’s been over a year now)

Recently…
I have been reminded how EASY it is to forget
what NEVER GIVE UP means in MY LIFE…

To set this up…
Deanna and I usually carpool to work…
After 24 years of marriage she still likes me…
:roll:

Anyways…

We woke up late and we were both rushing
around the house trying to get ready and she says
“we are so behind, should we ride separate???”

At the time I said no and told her to finish up
and we will be fine…

However…

As the day went on I became a little aggravated
because it seemed like she was just ready to toss in the
proverbial towel…
MY OWN WIFE was ready to QUIT over something
so very small….

I gotta admit it was kind of like a betrayal of sorts…
Like finding out that your best friend is NOT a Cubs fan…
Not that this has ever happened to me but you get the point…
;)

When I told her how I felt about this she brought me back to
earth with a quickness and I’m glad she did…
She reminded me of my actions just the week before
and it wasn’t pretty…

You see…
I was out cutting the yard last week and I stressed myself out
because I wanted to get the yard done in one day and I’m
VERY PARTICULAR about how I cut my yard…
(I know it sounds stupid but that’s me…;)

I got myself all stressed out and pretty much
got mad at her because I couldn’t do it all by myself
anymore and that I needed help…
If I’m being totally honest – that’s not EXACTLY true…
Help would be NICE but I don’t NEED it because
of physical limitations…

She reminded me of how I acted and that I too
was ready to throw in the towel…

DAMN IT!!!
I hate it when she’s right.
(And she was – as usual)

Since that conversation…
I’ve done some “selfcheck” and it’s clear that
I’ve gotten complaisant over a little bit of time…

My NEVER GIVE UP spirit has turned to
MAYBE NEXT WEEK

I should have KNOWN something was wrong
when I started gaining weight and found myself
having to take blood pressure meds…
(something I’ve never had to do)

The good news is I’ve caught this before It
became a major concern…
I’m happy to report that I am down 8.5 lbs since
the initial visit with my doctor (concerning my blood pressure)
and he STILL insist that if I keep up the hard work and
lose the weight I should be able to get off the meds
sooner than later…
If you remember I said I needed to lose 15 maybe 20 pounds…

So….
I’m back on track and realizing that giving up
is NOT an option….

In closing…

Please here me when I say this…
In NO WAY is my life perfect…
I struggle just like everyone else…
I may not want to accept that but it’s the truth…
We are ALL going to struggle from time to time…
That’s why it’s so important to surround yourself with
people who will tell you what you NEED TO HEAR
and not what YOU WANT TO HEAR….

Those who tell you the TRUTH are your real friends…
Those are the ones to keep on your “payroll”…

I’d like to thank my wife Deanna for ALWAYS
telling me what I NEED TO HEAR and always
being on my team…

Thank you all for stopping by this week and reading…
I hope you have a FANTASTIC weekend…

Joel

#NeverGiveUp

 




Paying tribute to two fallen service men

Posted by [email protected] on May 31, 2019 at 10:45 AM Comments comments (0)

Howdy…
Happiest of Fridays to you all…
I hope your week was good and you
have some awesome plans for the weekend…


If you are new to the website...
This is the portion of the show where I send
out a heartfelt WELCOME to the neighborhood…
I simply ask that you take a moment to visit
ALLof the pages just so you can get a feel for
WHY I’m here and do what I do…


Sometimes…
I talk about LIFE as person who deals with illness…
Today isn’t going to be one of those days…


Today…
I wanna talk about the week that is
coming to a close…


For those who may not know…
I am the “social media guy” for a very rural
church in Rockvale, TN (Salem UMC)

I use the term “social media guy” because
I HATE the term “WEB MASTER”


I’m sorry…

When I hear WEB MASTER
I think of SPIDER-MAN
:roll:


You see…

I’m just a regular schmuck who taught himself
how to build a website because I felt a need to
share my story of living with Cirrhosis and that
grew into a passion for spreading the word of God
for our church…


So that’s the back story to where I’m heading with this…


A few weeks ago…
I was given an idea for a story for our church website…
The story was about the inscription on the backside
of the cross that stands on our altar…

The cross was dedicated to the memory of
First Lieutenant Roger E. Smith who lost his
life in the battle of Guam in 1944…



But NO ONE in the present day KNEW the story…


When I was told about the dedication on the cross
I decided to check it out and low and behold I was
given a TON of information to go through and I must
say that I learned a lot about this young man…


I sat on this story for a while because I wanted to
share it for Memorial Day and I’m so glad that I did…

I went through each piece of paper and learned
a lot about not just his military achievements but
his college back ground as well…


I don’t like to repeat a story so if you’d like to
read the ENTIRE STORY of 1st Lieutenant Roger E. Smith
please visit the website:
www.salemumc-rockvale.org
(it’s on our news from the pews page)
The title of the story is:
Our Cross: A Small Reminder of Memorial Day
(yes, that was a shameless plug)


Anyway…

Spending so much time with this story
felt like I was visiting an old friend or family member
that had been lost…

I mean…
Reading the way how this young man died
really brought home how things really were
during World War 2 and I mean it when I say
it was SUCH AN HONOR to present the story
to the church and his family on MEMORIAL DAY


Needless to say…
This story is so powerful it has really taken off
and I’m still getting e-mails about it late into the week…


Now speaking of family…
Deanna and I enjoy vacationing in Gulf Shores Alabama
One of my “must do’s” while down there is making the
short trip to Naval Air Station Pensacola
“Home of the Blue Angels”


We have gone down there as a couple
so many times to see the Angels practice…
it’s almost like visiting family…


We were down there in April of 2016
Just one month before the accident
in our own back yard of Smyrna Tennessee


If you aren’t from around these parts
or you’re not an aviation enthusiast you
may not know about the fatal crash of
B / A # 6


The team had just took off for the 1st
practice flight (Friday afternoon) before the
2016 Great Tennessee Airshow which would
start on the next day (Sat. June 3rd)


Shortly after takeoff…
Number six suffered some sort of event
that caused the aircraft to literally fall from the sky
and explode in a field not far (at all) from
an apartment complex…


Capt. Jeff Kuss was killed.


As I said earlier…
Watching the Blue Angels perform at their home
every year is like visiting a family member…
So this accident really hit home for us…


Capt. Kuss graduated from “TOP GUN”
(yes that TOP GUN) in 2012…
During his Naval career he accumulated
more than 1,400 flight hours and
175 carrier landings all before he joined the
Blue Angels in 2014…


After the accident…
The town of Smyrna decided to erect a memorial
for the fallen aviator and they have done a wonderful
job with the project…


Tonight…
Friday (May 31st) my wife and I will take part in the
first ever “TOP GUN” 6 k to help honor the memory
of our fallen hero Capt. Jeff Kuss



What a fitting end to a GREAT Memorial Day week…
Paying tribute to two fallen service men…


If you are a veteran…
Thank you for all that you have done for us…


If you are the family of one our brave men and / or women
who paid the ultimate sacrifice…


Thank you is clearly not enough…


Thank you all for taking the time for reading
and I hope you have a great weekend!!!


Joel

#NeverGiveUp



Class of 2019: Never Settle

Posted by [email protected] on May 17, 2019 at 12:05 PM Comments comments (0)

Howdy!!!
Happiest of Fridays to you all…

That’s right…
We have officially made it to the weekend
and I for one could NOT be any happier…


For those who may be new to the website
and / or the facebook page…
I’d like to send you a very warm and heartfelt
welcome to the neighborhood…


Please take a minute to check out all of the pages
on the website so you can get a better feel for who
you are dealing with here as I talk about life as
someone who battles health issues…
As well as life in general…


Sooooo…
With that…
Let’s get started…


Today I want to speak to the younger crowd…
More specifically…
Soon to be High school graduates…

 

From the early days of school I had a “love / hate”
relationship with school…


You see…
I was never the BEST student…
I always said that I was one of the first KIDS in the 80’s
with ADD and my sister (who by the way is a teacher) agrees…
But before I even got to middle school I had a teacher
named Mrs. Kiesling tell me to my face that I would
grow up to be nothing but a bum…


That. Hurt.
(still does and I’m 50)


Now…
Did her words mold my decisions to
be lazy and not do my work the way I should
for the remainder of my scholastic career???


Not at all…


It took me YEARS to realize that I had ADD
I’m talking well in to married life…
I can remember in high school roaming the halls
aimlessly because I didn’t know where I was supposed to be…
I remember a coach telling me I should just quit coming to his
class because my grades were so bad there was no way I could pass…
When I stopped showing up…
He turned me in for skipping class…
(true story)


It took me five years to finish high school
and when I was done…
I WAS DONE…


I never took the ACT or the SAT
so college was never in my plans…


I took every oddball job I could think of right out of high school…
I think that first year out of school I had five maybe six jobs…


It wasn’t until several years later that I finally found a job
that I stayed with and actually enjoyed…
Of all the places…
It was Kentucky Fried Chicken


The manager at the time was an older man named Ed Ketner
and he took me under his wing…
(pun fully intended)

He saw something in me and to this day I’m not sure what it was…
He trusted me…
As his trust grew…
He taught me team work…
and most of all…
He showed me what being in customer service is all about…


He taught me that no matter what job you have
you should take pride in it and do the BEST job possible…
And I did…


There were other jobs in between….
But the one that I am most proud of and is yet the reason
I’m writing this is my years driving a truck for Mattress Warehouse


Because of my “lack of education” I felt that I had no choice
but to “settle” for various jobs…
I took this job because I had a back ground in the moving industry
and the pay was better than my previous jobs…


We had two bosses there…
Wayne Chambers was the no nonsense delivery manager
and Dave Mcatee was the warehouse manager…

Again, my ADD caused me problems with Dave as there
were a lot of times where we sat and did nothing and
once that happens I’m easily distracted…


Wayne on the other hand…
He could whip you into shape with just a glance…
But he was a lot like Ed Ketner

He trusted me…


That job paid my bills for many years…
I met several famous people through deliveries…
I unloaded many semi’s FULL of mattresses too…
There’s NO TELLING how many mattresses I’ve pressed
over my head and carried the length of a foot ball field…
Twin sized, Full sized, Queen AND King sized…

I’ve carried them all…
(By myself)


Bunkbed boxes as well as twin sized hospital beds…
(did that too)


You see…
We were told in order to BE THE BEST
we had to 
BEAT THE BEST
That meant doing things that we had no business doing…
Like carrying KING SIZED MATTRESSES over your damn head
BY YOURSELF


During these “glory years” I had my wife and family telling me
that I had NO BUSINESS doing crap like that because
“when you’re 40 you’re gonna regret it!!!”


Guess what…
I’m fifty and been regretting for the past 10 years!!!


You see…
I had to leave that job because my back began to hurt
and I needed more family friendly hours…


Later I found out that I have arthritis in my back
and recently found out I have arthritis in my left shoulder…
All because I settled for a job that paid you for brute strength
instead of intelligence…


Soooooo…
Right about now y’all are probably saying
DAMN!!!
He sure is long winded today…


That’s because I want you to understand something…


The life you have is YOURS
Live it to the VERY BEST of your abilities and don’t let
someone tell you WHAT or WHO you will become…


In closing…
I’d like to say this…


I NEVER went to college…
And I sure as HELL didn’t grow up to be a BUM

I may not be a rocket surgeon…
:P
I may not be the president – yet
(I will be throwing my hat in the ring)
:D


But one thing is for sure…


My life is full…
Full of family, friends, memories, triumph
as well as tragedy…
I have a good job and a wife that loves me…

The good certainly outweighs the bad…


College may not be for you and that’s ok…
Just make the BEST choices for you…


Never Settle…
And…
NEVER GIVE UP.


Y'all have a fantastic weekend
and congratulations to the class of 2019...


Thanks for reading...

Joel
#NeverGiveUp



You gotta fight for it

Posted by [email protected] on May 9, 2019 at 11:30 AM Comments comments (2)

Howdy!!!


            Happiest of Thursdays to one and all…

I hope your week has been good to you and you all

have some AWESOME plans for Mother’s day this weekend…


If you have forgotten…
Don’t worry…
I’ll say a prayer for ya…
:P

If you are new to the website and / or facebook page
this is the portion of the show where I welcome you
and invite you to check out ALL of the pages so you get
to know me a little bit better as we talk about life…

Which is what I do…

Sooooo…
Welcome and enjoy your visit…

Today..
I’m going to continue to talk about things that
have been going on with my health and my plans to
combat those issues…

You know…
In my most recent post I spoke of my struggles
to get back to running and my health in general…

Now…
It hasn’t been quite 2 weeks yet
but I’m already seeing some changes for the better…

I did see the orthopedic specialist about my shoulder…
At this time he has given me a steroid shot and want’s me
to be aggressive about doing some shoulder stretches
to loosen my shoulder – however he hasn’t ruled out surgery…

We will find out more about that in six weeks
after I try the stretches as he THINKS that should help…
I’m not a pessimist but I’m not as confident as the
good doctor…

I’ve also gotten very serious about my weight again…
If you remember I said I needed to lose about fifteen pounds…

I began doing “cardio training” twice a day
on Monday (4/29) and weighed in at 243 lbs…


My goal is to get up EARLY on Mon, Tues, Thurs, Fri
and be on my stationary bike by 4:30 am…

Then, when I get off work I will WALK
on Mon. and Fri evening for 30 minutes…

On Tues and Thurs. evenings I will run for 30 minutes
And on Saturdays I will try to go on longer runs…
(that one hasn’ t happened yet…;)

In the first week of training…
I’m already seeing a difference in my blood pressure
as it is slowly coming down…
And…
I’ve already lost 4 pounds

Now…
Deanna and I have had the Titans 5k race on our calendar
for quite sometime now...
(It’s this weekend)

Usually I can run 3 miles in my sleep when I’m training…
I just did my first 3 mile run in a while and I thought the
last half mile was gonna KILL ME!!!

Then it hit me…

I’ve been doing A LOT of cardio over the past week or so
and my legs are TIRED!!!

Now…
My GOAL is to simply do MY BEST in this race…


Will I win???
Are you kidding ???
NOT EVEN CLOSE!!!
And that’s on a good day…
:D

Sooo…
This week I have decided that my best bet was
to let that last run (tues night) be my final run
for the week and let my legs rest until Saturday…
Once the race is over I will have all weekend to recover
and I will begin “2 a days” again on Monday…

In closing…

I find it MOST IMPORTANT to say this…
I don’t write this to say LOOK WHAT I CAN DO!!!

I write this because this is MY struggle
and it’s VERY REAL

If I don’t fight to stay ahead of this struggle
I will lose what momentum I’ve gained over the
past 7 years and that’s NOT an option…
Therefore I will NEVER GIVE UP…

What about you???
Wanna join the team and fight for what’s yours???
All you have to do is learn those three little words…
NEVER. GIVE. UP.

Y’all have a great weekend
and thanks for reading!!!

Joel
#NeverGiveup


I've been struggling

Posted by [email protected] on May 2, 2019 at 2:25 PM Comments comments (1)

Howdy…

Happiest of Thursdays to you all…

I hope your week has gone smoothly
and you are all looking forward to some
much needed rest and relaxation time…

For those of you who are new to this site…
I’d like to extend a very heart felt thank you
for visiting and please make your self at home…
I do hope you will check out all the pages and
learn more about me as I talk about life…

Cuz that’s what I do…

Ok…

Let’s get to it…

If you follow me on Facebook
You may have seen a post where I admitted
to struggling a bit with my running as of late…

The truth of the matter is this…
I have struggled all of 2019…

January all the way thru March
was extremely BRUTAL for my family as I
have stated before in a previous post…

My mom had 2 strokes in January…
I got the flu in between the two strokes…
My Dad lost his wife rather suddenly
and then we watched as he basically lost
his privacy when he moved in to assisted living…

It’s been a struggle for him to become accustomed
to his new living arrangements but he’s getting there…

Anyways…

In the mean time…
Deanna and I are still trying to get our weekly
runs in but it just seems like SOMETHING ELSE
is going to happen to prevent us from getting them in…

Then…

By April I had pretty much lost focus…

I was worried to death about both of my parents…

My mom has always been my biggest fan even
when I got on her last nerve as a kid…

And my dad…

We have talked more since his wife’s passing
than we have in the past 30 years…

So there’s that…

Now…

While we were still dealing with all of the drama
at the first of the year, I somehow did something
to my left shoulder…

This past week…
I made plans to have it looked at by my doctor
just to make sure every thing is ok…

Come to find out…

I have tendinitis, arthritis, and a small muscle tear
that will require me to visit with an Orthopedic specialist…

GRRRRRRRRRRREAT….

Oh, but wait…
There’s more…
Always is, right???

So…

Before the doctor comes in
for that initial visit the nurse takes
my blood pressure…

It’s high…
I don’t remember HOW HIGH
but it was HIGH

I HAVE NEVER HAD HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE!!!
(EVER)

Since that visit…
I have been documenting my blood pressure
and it is not coming down...

So, I made an appointment to see the doctor
this morning (May 2nd) to address the issue…

We talked about the “stress” that has been
in my life and how that DOES contribute to
high blood pressure…

As well as being OVERWEIGHT

Yep…

I am man enough to admit that I have
gained 15 pounds since the first of the year…

NOW.

The doctor and I talked about my plans…

I told him that I began doing “two a day”
cardio training as of this week…
I’m watching what I eat…
And I gave up Dr. Peppers nearly a month ago…

I even showed him how I track my food and my
exercise on my phone…

He apparently liked my plan…
He told me that if I keep this kind of motivation
I should be able to be off the blood pressure meds
in no time flat…
Probably 15 pounds should do it…
(the amount I’ve gained – imagine that.)

Folks…
I share this with you so that you KNOW
how REAL the STRUGGLE is…

ANY STRUGGLE…

I have NO ONE to blame for this
“setback” but myself and you know what…

I’m going to be fine…

It may not be tomorrow…

It may not be next week…

But I have found my focus
And I know what I have to do…

The key to this battle is simple…
Work harder to regain control
and…
NEVER GIVE UP!!!

In Closing...
I want to leave you all with this...

Sooner or later we will ALL face some kind
of DRAMA that will throw your life in to a tail spin...

It could be a sick relative...
It could be your finances...
It could be a relationship...

Whatever the DRAMA...
The outcome is TOTALLY up to you and how
YOU allow it to play out...

Just remember...
You can't help someone
if you dont help your self first...
(A lesson I just re-learned)

Y'all have a fantasitc weekend...

Joel
#nevergiveup




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